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Getting To Know Your Ring Sling


Getting To Know Your Ring Sling


Babywearing is kind of like shoes. You could get by in life with only one pair, but it would be much easier if you had a different pair for different occasions.
— Twinmommy101

There is so much to love about ring slings. The quickness of being able to get your baby in and out,  the ease of being able to discreetly breastfeed in it, having the ability to keep your carrier on your body even when you aren't wearing your baby. Or maybe the fact that you can use a ring sling from birth through toddlerhood is the selling point for you. Whatever your biggest personal "pro" is about the ring sling, there are a few things to consider when setting out to search for the perfect one for you. 

Tekhni Nymphai Tuxedo Ring Sling

Tekhni Nymphai Tuxedo Ring Sling

The ring sling was invented by Rayner and Sachi Garner, beginning its life as a padded carrier. Dr. Sears - who coined the term "babywearing" in the early 1980's - bought the design and brought it to a wider market with the publication of “The Baby Book”. Ring slings are inspired by the Mexican Rebozo carry- a carry that requires the use of a short woven wrap and is secured by a slip knot at the shoulder. The rings replace the slip knot and are the identical twin to the "d belt" that was all the rave back in the late 90's/early 2000's.

Ring slings are a great option if you are looking for something to use from the early days until your little is done with wearing (or hits the average 35 lbs weight limit). In my almost 3 years of babywearing experience, a ring sling has been the easiest option for breastfeeding, quick ups, and is my go to for when I know my toddler is going to want to frequently get "off of the ride" for short periods of time. The ring sling also makes it super easy to be ready for anything because you can leave this carrier on your body-already prepped and ready for baby to get into. Unlike other types of carriers, the ring sling won't leave parts dangling around you or make you feel like you stand out in the crowd with an excessive amount of material on your body. You can leave a soft structured carrier on your body buckled, but it requires you having to unbuckle the chest clip. (Not to mention it can be potentially obnoxious without a baby in there.) A pre-tied carry with a woven or stretchy wrap can be a good choice for popping your baby in and out, but can leave an excessive amount of fabric/material around your body. A mei tai carrier has straps that would require you to tie and then untie in order to get baby in. A ring sling, however, can be left unadjusted after you remove your baby, or you can tighten the carrier a little and easily loosen it to get baby back in with one quick pull of a ring to release- which takes literally about 2 seconds,

When it comes to ring slings, the shoulder style can potentially make or break your experience with them. It's crucial to keep in mind that every BODY is built differently and that what may work for one person may not be the best fit for the next.  Where you place the rings on your body will greatly influence how the sling falls onto your body. While "corsage level" is the ideal starting point for rings, it is ok if they are higher or lower than that area. *Be sure that if you are a breastfeeding mom, that you avoid placing the rings on an area that puts pressure on the breast to avoid clogging a duct- amongst other things.* 

Here is a breakdown of what shoudler styles are out there. Don't let this list overwhelm you! Instead, it is my hope that you are able to use it as a guide. Also, get to know your body a little bit and take advantage of any opportunity you have to test different styles. Check to see if there is a babywearing consultant or babywearing group local to you so you can get some hands on help and try on a few different types of ring slings and the other types of carriers that are available.


(photos of each style are below)

  1. The gathered shoulder: The gathered shoulder is the widest shoulder option for ring slings. The wearer has full control of how far down the arm they would like for the sling to sit and how much of the shoulder is cupped. Because this shoulder style allows for the widest spread, some find that it may be a bit restrictive for their arms range of motion. It also has the potential to dig into the neck if the wearer's shoulders are more on the narrow side. This particular shoulder style is a good option to consider if wearing a heavier baby because it allows for the sling to spread more, allowing for a wider distribution of their weight across the back
  2. The floating gathered shoulder: Similar to the traditional gather, but the drop (the distance between the rings and where the sling is sewn) is farther up the sling. Because there is more space between the stitching and the rings, there is more fabric folded over the shoulder creating a touch of padding for the wearer, while still allowing them to have full control over how much they spread the shoulder on their body.
  3. The pleated shoulder: This is one of the most structured shoulder styles, and can be a fantastic way to show off the colors of the sling - especially when it comes to stripes! This shoulder style is also a good option for beginners, because they are less likely to become overwhelmed since the potential for having extra fabric around the shoulders is eliminated. This particular shoulder style will not cup the shoulder or go over the arm as much as other styles, leaving the wearer with a greater range of motion for their arm.  The pleats can be done very narrow or broad and everything in between: It all depends on the company/person who is sewing the slings. (Note that the narrower the pleats, the less it will spread over the shoulder.) How far the drop goes (the distance between the rings and where the sling is sewn) is an important factor to consider and will determine how this sling will fit on each individual body.  The pleated shoulder can be a great option for wearers who have narrow, broad, or square shoulders. This style is rather subjective because where the wearer places the rings can heavily impact how it fits them. If the rings are too low for their particular frame, it’s going to feel much too wide, and if they don’t play with it a little, they may chalk it up to “I can’t wear pleats”. Same if it’s too high. The potential downside to this style is that spreading the sling across the upper portion of the back to distribute the weight of their baby can be hindered in comparison to other shoulder styles. But again, it depends on the wearer's frame and where they place the rings.
  4. The box pleated shoulder: This type of pleat allows the wearer to have the most control over how much-or little- they want to spread the sling over the shoulder without having to deal with the bunchiness of the gathered shoulder style. This style is pleated from the center and outwards, versus your standard pleat that all goes in one direction. Depending on how the shoulder is sewn (varies by brands),  spreading it too much,  can put a lot of stress on the seam, so use your best judgement and always be gentle with your carrier no matter what the style. The box pleated style allows the wearer to have the option to cup the shoulder (so that the sling goes completely over the shoulder and onto the arm) or just keep the sling on top of the shoulder similar to the pleated style. This style may offer a little bit more cushion that the standard pleated style, making it one of the best options to consider for those who have more narrow or bony shoulders and don’t feel the need to spread their shoulder a lot. It's hard to determine if there is a "true box pleat" on the market mostly because it would be super wide and not very comfortable, but there are several companies that have narrow, more symmetrical pleats that resemble a true box pleat. (As pictured below.)
  5. The Eesti/Hybrid shoulder (licensed to Sleeping Baby Productions-SBP): These shoulder styles are a happy mix of the above styles: with pleats on the edges to allow for a control of how far down/up the sling spreads along the end of the wearer's shoulder (where their arm and neck are), while still giving the them the control over how much the sling spread over the edges of their actual shoulder.  The pleats help to keep the sling in place, while the gathered center allows the wearer more control over how their baby's weight is distributed along their back. As stated on the SBP website: "The Eesti shoulder is a modified gathered shoulder, in that some of the slings width is taken up with two small pleats on either side of the shoulder. This allows the shoulder to spread out more than my standard pleats, while keeping it somewhat more contained than a fully gathered shoulder."
  6. The padded shoulder: This shoulder style is often considered a step up in regards to comfort because of the padding in the shoulder, but as with anything it all depends on the wearer's preferences and body. The amount of padding can vary from brand to brand, however it's important to consider the impact of having any padding in the shoulder first. A padded shoulder style allows for the shoulder of the ring sling to stay spread over the shoulder. While the wearer has less control of how this carrier sits on the shoulder, they don't have to worry as much about the back of the sling not being spread. This automatic spreading of the shoulder allows for the carrier to spread more evenly across the wearer's back, which in turn distributes baby’s weight more evenly.
  7. The no-sew ring sling: This is a great way to get some bang for your buck if you have a shorter wrap. When considering a no-sew ring sling, be sure to ONLY use rings from They are the only company that has rings that have been tested and approved for the use of babywearing. (Safety first always!) Using a shorter wrap,  thread the rings through the wrap and make a double layer to secure them. WATCH my friend Wrapping Rachel show you how easy it is to do! 

What if I have a sloped shoulder?  The trouble with a really sloped shoulder is that the lower rail will tend to dig in if it’s worn too far down the arm, or too tight. Something that has a real cup to the shoulder will be, generally, less comfortable for that build. A sling that would allow the wearer to wear the rings fairly high on the shoulder, to keep the material from spreading far down, would be a good recommendation. Maybe give the floating gathered style a try, or actually, a padded shoulder sling like the ones Diane Pepin (Mother’s Helper, in Canada) makes -- hers are padded under the rings, so they can be worn quite high without digging into the shoulder bones. And they don’t spread out a lot, which would be helpful. Otherwise, a sloped shouldered wearer might wish to try one of the newer MayaWrap styles; both can be contained at the shoulder and are likely to not dig in on the upper arm. (Info source: Jan of Sleeping Baby Productions.)

What about water ring slings? Water slings are a good way to stay hands free while in the pool or shower. Please be sure to check out the "Getting To Know Your Water Carriers" post coming soon! 

Some features to consider when shopping for a ring sling include:

  • Sewn in pockets: these pockets can have a velcro closure or a zipper depending on the brand you shop
  • Double sided slings: these slings tend to be thicker because instead of one piece of material/fabric, you have 2 pieces that are sewn together
  • Stripes: stripes on a ring sling make it easier to know which parts of your sling needs to be adjusted/tightened
  • The rings themselves: is THE place to get rings to meet your babywearing needs. They have been tested and approved by the CPSC/CPSIA to bear up to 250 lbs! Be sure to research whether the sling that you are interested in uses sling rings or not. If your rings have a weld mark or are shiny/plastic you may not have authentic sling rings. (NOTE: does offer nylon rings as well, so just be sure you know what you are buying before you get yourself commited to anything!)

If you have a new ring sling, don't forget the rules about breaking your carrier in. Carriers are like jeans: at first they are super "tight" but as you wear them, they soften up and are easier to conform to your body. 

The one friendly disclaimer to keep in mind about ring slings is that it is a one shouldered carry. So if you have a weaker back, a heavier baby, or are tandem wearing this may not want to be your first choice for a long period of time wearing option. (We have comfortably managed to make it for at least an hour with no issues at about 30 lbs. So don't completely write off this type of carrier!) In the early days, your baby is going to be lighter, making the "one shouldered carrier" issue less important. And as you wear, your muscle memory increases making it less of an obstacle as your baby grows. And remember that keeping your sling nice and spread across your back will help the weight distributed vs it being bunched together and more likely to dig.

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*This post was written in collaboration with Jan of Sleeping Baby Productions

Check out some of my YouTube videos for more info about how to use a ring sling: 


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